Bride to Be: Here’s What You Need To Do First

Bride to Be 2023: Here’s What You Need To Do First

So you just got engaged…congrats!

It is engagement season after all. But what do you do now? If you’re what I like to call a ‘DIY Bride’ you’ll most likely be the one that wants to dive right into planning the wedding and getting boxes checked off.

Go you!

That’s great you want to start chipping away at your wedding to-do list but what about the vision? No, not the vision of the wedding, but the vision of yourself. You, as a bride. The bride.

Is this a lifestyle change for you?
Do you see that there’s going to need to be a game plan to reach your vision?
If you already see yourself ready to get married, can you envision yourself feeling confident walking down the aisle in front of all your family & friends?

If you’re anything like me, you won’t take your journey from “Miss to Mrs” lightly. You see it as an identity shift, and although it’s a sweet one, it can be a lot between the planning & holding that vision of your future partnership that can get through the tales of time.

There’s a reason why they make wine glasses that say “This is my wedding planning glass” and how why the Betches Brides podcast (great podcast btw) has the slogan “for the wedding obsessed and the brides that are stressed”. Wedding planning includes tackling not just logistics, but your emotions through this season.

It’s simple: planning a big life event like this (whether you’re eloping or not) has a lot of elements of stress to it. It can bring out sides of you that you didn’t mean to evoke: bossiness, people-pleasing, guilt, overwhelm, and of course bridezilla.

But what if you knew exactly how to avoid or at least face these emotions? That would be so helpful, right? Heck yeah!

So how does one do that, because it’s easier said than done.

Here’s an excerpt from my new e-book to give you a taste.

“Q: What to do when you start to feel nervous?

A: Redirect the present feeling into excitement. Feeling nervous can quickly become overwhelming and make you feel nauseous. Your body might feel scared. This is going to be just one very big moment in your life so get excited instead. You need this big energy you feel inside to help you remember this important day in your life. Let that empower you to feel so positive and focused on what’s about to happen in a positive way. Have gratitude for this moment that you get to live.

Try one or all of these to help center you: Put one hand on your heart & one on your belly and tell yourself, “I am safe”. Scream “I’m getting married today!”. Smile your biggest smile. Dance! Move that energy for a moment and then breathe in and feel the bliss that comes over you. It’s almost relaxing, like a high. That is your state of bliss. You are choosing to own the moment and control how this goes for you. This GETS to be your big day. Make it work for you.”

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